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1. How should I address you?

   My name is Lady Seraphina, and you will address me as 'my Lady', 'm'Lady', or 'Lady Seraphina'. I am not a 'Mistress' nor shall I be called 'ma'am', 'Goddess', 'your Majesty' or any other ridiculous title you may have dreamed up. When referring to me, my boys say I am their 'Domme' or their 'Lady'.

2. Where do we play? 

   I recently moved to my new home, and have set up a much larger playroom in the basement.  There are photos in the gallery of my equipment, and it is growing all the time.  Currently I have a main space with my Chair, the flogging bench, cage/table, and Saint Andrew's cross, as well as a medical play area complete with exam table (with stirrups).

3. Can't you do an outcall? I'm too lazy to want to leave my house or hotel room to meet you.

   My equipment is in my playroom, and there is no reason I should indulge such a silly request. On occassion I do take my boys on outings, but that is for public play, not to meet them in their homes.

4. I'm a newbie, and I'm afraid you are too intense for me.

   I can be gentle with those who are new to the scene, or who are timid playing with a new Domme. If you have had a bad play experience in the past, do be sure to tell me, and I will happily help you through it, or to avoid that activity.

5. I'm very experienced, and love to push my limits. Will you stop punishing me if I cry out or moan?

   No. Once I know what your pain thresholds are, I will only stop if you use your safe words, or indicate you are at the limit of your tolerance for that day. If you are having a day where you cannot take near the level you usually do, be aware I may tease you for being a wimp, but it's all in the spirit of fun, and I will still respect your limits.

6. I'm a masochist, but not really submissive. Can I still play with you?

   I tend to find that non-submissive masochists like to push the envelope, and have difficulty being respectful, but if you can play within my rules, and offer the respect I require, you may still play with me.

7. I'm submissive, but I'm not a masochist. I see you are a heavy sadist, will you still play with me?

   Absolutely. There are many things we can do without hurting you.

8. Does it hurt?

   That’s a hard question. Depending on what we do, there can be pain, but typically you will be releasing enough endorphins to handle the pain, or even find it pleasurable. Some people are seeking pain for the sake of pain, so for them, yes, it hurts. I will never push you farther than you are ready to go.

9. Will you make me do something I don’t want to do?

   We play in a realm where ‘no’ means ‘yes’, and ‘please stop’ means ‘hit me harder’. Will I make you do something even if you protest? I will if you like that. Will I make you do something that goes beyond your hard limits (absolute ‘no’)? Certainly not. This is the reason we have safewords.

10. Do I get to have sex with you?

    No. Under no circumstances do you get to have any form of sex with me – no oral service, PIV sex, fondling, et cetera. The nearest thing to crossing that line is when I use a strap-on, or have you perform oral dildo worship.

11. I understand there is no sex, but I find a lot of the activities arousing. If I have an erection, will that offend you?

    Many of my boys find these activities exciting, and while some may never have an erection in session, the majority will. As long as you are properly respectful, I have no problem with your physical excitement, though do not expect me to permit release.

12. Is this legal?

    Yes. What two consenting adults agree to do in private is no one’s business but our own. There is no sexual contact, and no prostitution or solicitation is involved. I always play safely and consensually, and I am a taxpayer like everyone else.

13. Do you play with any other Dommes?

    Typically not. When you have two dominant personalities, there is almost always conflict over who leads the session. It’s simply not worth doing. That said, my good friend Madame Sabine is available for certain types of sessions, and my girl Dex is a switch, and does co-top with me.

14. Are you an escort?

    Although the licensing is similar, in no way am I an escort, service provider, prostitute, sex worker, or anyone else here for your sexual satisfaction. I am here to train you, discipline you, bind you, and take over your body and mind.

15. Can I be your lover/boytoy/bull?

    That position is already filled. Thank you for your interest.

16. Is there any chance that one day...?

    No. Not now, not ever.

17. Why do you do this?

    I love what I do. Each and every one of my submissives belongs to me, as surely as if we played personally. I help them, and we have fun together.  I have a number of "top biscuits" including the satisfaction of helping/healing my bottoms, the pleasure of inflicting pain, and the power I wield.  Of course I feed off of your responses, so your favourite activities, or ones that help you in some way, will bring me great joy.

18. What are your favourite activities?

    That’s a tough question. It’s more a matter of what I’m in the mood for at any given time. I also thrive on the reactions of my slaves, so that has a significant impact on what I will enjoy.

19. I’m worried that if I tell you what I want, I’ll be topping from the bottom.

    In no way is that the case. Topping from the bottom is when you attempt to take control, while pretending to submit. In telling me what interests you, and what doesn’t, you enable me to know you. The better I know you, the better I can manipulate you – in the best possible way, of course!

    In addition, you must remember that it is a slave’s duty to see to his or her Domme, to ensure they are as pleasing as possible, and that they make their mistress’s life as easy and pleasant as they can. By making respectful suggestions, you make my job simpler. and that should be one of your strongest desires.  Do not, however, write me a detailed script.  Doing so IS topping from the bottom, as you have just told me how to do my job.

20. I’m not open about what I like to do, are you discreet?

    While I live my life openly, not everyone is able to do so, and I respect that. I play very discreetly with those who are not able to be open, and leave no marks when that is requested as well.

21. I’m married, can I still play with you?

    Certainly. I prefer that you have spoken to your mate, or at least attempted to do so, but that is your choice. Given that we play in a non-sexual manner, it does not vie with my ethics to play with a married person. Your spouse may not see it that way, of course.

22. I’m married, and would like you to teach my spouse to dominate me.

    Speak with them, and if they are interested and willing, I would be happy to advise you both. Sometimes a discussion is all that’s required, other times we have sessions together in which I instruct your spouse on techniques an attitude. Couples sessions are 1.5 times single rate, whether I teach one to top the other, or dominate both of you.

23. How do I pronounce your name?

    sayr a FEE nah. You may call me Lady Seraphina, or my Lady, but do not drop the honourific.

24. I would like to become a Dominatrix. Is there a school or apprenticeship?

    Not really. I was in the lifestyle for eight years before becoming a professional. I don't know of anyone who can train you unless you have been in the lifestyle for a while first. It isn't merely a matter of putting on a bitchy face and brandishing a whip. If you truly want to learn, become a lifestyler, learn more about yourself, develop a style and some technique, read all you can, and if after a few years you still want to be a professional, look into it.  I do not train proDommes.

25. I like a heavy beating. You look very delicate, can you administer a heavy session?

    I am a very serious sadist. I have administered many heavy punishments, including multiple hours of pure pain. I may look small, but I can wield a paddle and cane with great glee and ferocity.

26. I'm a woman, do you play with femsubs?
    

    Absolutely!  Most of the photos and language on my site are geared towards my boys, because the majority of my submissives are male, but I frequently play with females.  My girl, Dex, is a sadistic switch, and is a very masochistic service subby to me.  Feminine energy is completely different from masculine energy when playing, and I thrive on diversity.

27. I crave ownership.  Is there any chance you would take me on as your slave?

    Possibly.  You must first have several sessions with me, so that we may get to know one another.  If, after that, we like each others energy, I would ask you to think seriously about what you want to gain out of being owned, and what you have to offer.  There is much to be gained, but also a serious commitment.  Be sure before you ask, I dislike time wasters.